Another Thosanustra Moment
On July 14, 2003
1001 The Cliff House in Corpus Christi, TX
waiting for hurricane Claudette, which never really showed up.
Just had a shower and am sitting at Mother’s little white desk, thinking about her death in January of this year. These words came like a stream of consciousness:
for relationships, (by Harville Hendrix)
Getting The Love You Want
Keeping The Love You Find
Receiving Love
for conscientious parents, (by Hendrix and Hunt)
Giving The Love That Heals
for Strengths Coaches:
Positive Psychology Coaching (by Deiner and Dean)
I last saw my beloved cousin on July 29, 2007 at her home in Amarillo. We were there for our grandson’s wedding so I was privileged to see her and say goodbye. Wistie died on Haloween. Her funeral at First Baptist Church in Amarillo was a time of great family love and connection. This is the letter I wrote in July before her death in October. Fortunately, she responded to it and we had a loving conversation by telephone. I still miss her and I treasure our time together.
These skills are worth learning. I used them for many years in my work with couples. They may seem easy at first glance, yet my experience is that they need to be practiced with some deep dedication. You will never go wrong when you mirror their words; grasp the meaning; and understand the feelings. Try it. I predict you will like the benefit.
Mirroring–
Listen and reflect every word someone says. Do it sincerely and naturally. Prove you heard all their words. Say back to them, “If I heard you correctly, you said_______” Ask, “Did I get it?” If they say yes, ask, “Is there more?” If they say no, ask them to tell you again. Keep reflecting until you know through their words, body posture, eyes, and facial expression, that they believe you have heard them accurately.
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