You As Leader
I have been thinking about this idea today. Think of all the people in your life that you would label “Leader”…..
Next, describe how you think they are doing. Go for the best praise and the lowest criticism for each one of them. Take time to do this and be as honest as you can in your assessment of each one.
Now, ask yourself about your own view of yourself. Are you a leader? Whom do you lead? Am I a leader? Whom do I lead? My answer is yes to all those questions. You are a leader and I am a leader. Each one of us leads.
Here is what I cannot escape as a conclusion. We are all leaders. We lead someone. Primarily, we lead ourselves. Each one of us is different and we lead humanity toward some evolutionary progress. Or, we don’t. Each one of us has the capacity to forward our expansive evolutionary journey as a species called human; each one of us has the capacity to delay that expansion. Expansion is the true name of the game. We are expanding and we will continue to expand. They tell us the Universe herself is expanding. The upward spiral is ever up and ever broadening. (We need good “shrinks” to help us grasp this concept.)
Now look at the list you made of leaders. Are they Presidents (of country or company)? Are they living or dead; male or female; old or young? Be in the zone of what I call “merciless self awareness”. Ask what you are revealing to yourself. What you see, what you react to, what you think-feel-do-believe is all here for your observation. I hope you keep your observation objective and benign. No self-downing, please. Just go for the awareness of who you are and how you behave today, right here and right now.
Here’s where the moment of contrast is faced. As within, so without. “As a man thinketh….” This is the Come to Jesus moment of self awareness. Prepare to face your own self-constructed reality. Ready? Set? Go!
Using your keen self-awareness, own your own projections. Look at your lists and say, “I am like that, too.” We see our named leaders through the lens of our own perception; through the filters of our own experience; through the life script we are living. And we are the author, actor, and audience of the life script. The good news here is that we can take charge of the script.
Do you ever find yourself praising or criticizing your very own self for the same characteristics you attributed to those leaders you named? Are you even harder on yourself than you are on your manager, your boss, your company leader, your president???
What if the one person we actually lead day in and day out is number one—yourself–myself? What if we saw the dual roles operating within us—both leader and follower. What if we supported that internal follower with good thoughts and high acceptance? What if I looked on myself as a follower who needs a compassionate, caring, mindful, and, yes, happy leader? This is like self-re-parenting. Taking charge and providing the parenting that our birth parents couldn’t or wouldn’t do, is our responsibility as well as our right as leaders of our own destiny.
Can I be a leader and be happy? I think we cannot justify or logically support any opinion as making us happy or sad; nothing outside us makes us full of joy or full of despair. Your job is not the culprit; your spouse or your spice is not the cause; your outside world does not dictate the experience of your inside world. The greatest power you possess is here in this concept. You have choices about how you respond to your life experiences.
Being a leader of one is possible. Being happy is possible. My job doesn’t really make me happy nor does it make me full of despair. Nothing outside the realm of my own thought system makes me feel anything. This is a belief that is both frightening and freeing. It is the good news and it is the bad news. I and I, alone, own what I believe, what I think, what I feel, and what I do. Today, I am convinced this is true for you, too.
Therefore, we can choose to take charge of our thinking and, ultimately, take charge of our believing. Belief creates reality. My conclusion, on this seventh day of February, 2010, is that I am the only one in charge of my beliefs and my thoughts. My feelings are the indicator of whether I am leading myself in the most beneficial directions. My feelings are the gauge of whether I am operating from my native talents—my strengths—or whether I am playing the old games and being a victim of Life. If I am in the Victim role, I will cast my leaders on the outside as my Persecutors or as my Rescuers. Therefore, the neurotic games can continue. (Rarely have I seen anyone cast their boss as the Victim!)
My beliefs are the prognosticator of whether I experience abundance, love, and success. Yes, believing makes it so. Beliefs create experience.
As Harry Palmer, the founder of Avatar, says, “If you don’t believe this to be true, you will experience it as false, which proves that the belief creates the experience!”
So, as of this moment, I send all those who are in positions of leadership my most compassionate, prayerful thoughts for their success, their embracing of abundance instead of scarcity, and their discovery of the power of Love.
I accept my expansive possibilities for more wisdom in my beliefs. I embrace the people in my world as the genius provocateurs of my growth. And, I thank every one of them for the contrast, the turning points, and the climb to the next level on my journey of self-discovery; self-ownership; and self-creation.