THE BEST LEADERS

In all these years of working with people, the last fifteen in the life of corporate relationships, I can say that the best leadership has a quality of development of employees, rather than domination or control.  Working with families, I can say that the best parents are developers, not controllers.  Working with marriage and other relationships, I truly believe that the best possible husband, wife, or lover is interested in the development of the partner, not control or domination of that partner. Read more...

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ECONOMICS

How is your portfolio doing?  If your 401K looks like mine, it has been severely reduced in the last few weeks.  I am looking at a different kind of portfolio.  This one is suggested in a brilliant new book, POSITIVITY, by Barbara Fredericks, Ph.D., who deals in research into positive psychology.  That is right down my alley, since I am totally convinced that the Strengths-Based approach is the best way to go through life. Read more...

ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE

A song from my past
was “Accentuate the Positive; Eliminate the Negative”. One of the lines said, “Don’t mess with Mister In-Between”. We have had many years of remediation of weaknesses, attempting to eliminate the negative. We look at the negative and follow a disease model where we catch people when they are wrong. If pointing out mistakes was effective, how many parents would never repeat themselves when they say, “Stop doing that!” The unfortunate truth is that whatever that parent wanted the child to stop is probably now going to be done again. If nothing else, the child now knows how to get the parents’ attention. Read more...